May is national masturbation month.
I don't know how you feel about that. The word masturbation itself, I am sure, conjures up all sorts of feelings, thoughts, and possible judgments. I know it does for me.
It's complicated. We can often have a lot of shame and trauma associated with both our sexual experiences and masturbation. Even the idea of it.
Sometimes we feel bad and wrong. And sometimes it's the only thing that does feel good.
I get it.
As you know, I am a proponent of the body. I am an advocate for the sensuality of our bodies. I am an enthusiastic supporter of presence in our bodies.
And presence actually requires presence. Presence requires listening to our bodies. Presence requires touch. And maybe touching ourselves. Touching our beautiful bodies. (Please open yourself to the beauty of your body)
Touching our bodies with Love. Maybe even touching our Yoni's with Love.
I talk on my website about how Yoni Bliss can be used daily to help with water tissue balance, and pH balance, and general soothing.
Our Yoni's (vagina, vulva area) can be tricky. They are sensitive. They are susceptible to being out of balance.
Hormonal changes can shift the pH in our vaginas. Semen can shift the pH.
Dryness can happen with hormonal shifts, with medications, with emotions.
Yoni Bliss is a water-based, acidic lubricant. Your yoni in its natural state loves this. Yoni Bliss also has homeopathic ingredients to support the Yoni. Natrum Muriaticum is what I want to talk about today.
Natrum Muriaticum is salt. Think about salt in the body. Too much, we retain water, not enough we are dehydrated.
Using Yoni Bliss daily will help the body to navigate that balance in the vaginal, vulva area.
It is one simple way to love your body every day and be wetter, and maybe more comfortable. Apply a little love to your Yoni for 21 days. It's my challenge to you.
You can masturbate with it if you like. Or you can just enjoy the sensation of the application. Or perhaps you may not enjoy it too much until your yoni is back to its natural pH balance, (it can cause stinging if you are too alkaline), or if you feel shame or emotional discomfort.
Be with that. See what comes up. Journal about it. Talk about it with someone. Know that there is always help available.
What would it be like if you tried it for 21 days? Loving yourself. Loving your Yoni.
Where is my second chakra?The second chakra is the energetic region of the lower belly and inner pelvis. It represents the eternal process of creation and regeneration. Our womb resides there, and in some traditions it is considered “one’s own abode” or my favorite, “Source”.
I love this! As women, it’s all about the second chakra. It holds creation, babies and fertile ideas. It keeps us grounded.How can I have second chakra alignment?There are many factors that can mess with second chakra energy, and one of the big ones is sexual abuse and trauma. Just ask any friend and I’m betting 3 out of 4 have experienced some form of trauma, and all of us know someone who has. It’s heartbreaking.
And it’s something that we can heal from. First steps include recognizing and acknowledging the trauma. Accept that it doesn’t make us less whole or unloveable. And then move the energy through to free up space so that we can access our passionate creative selves.
Joy, pleasure, enthusiasm and sensuality are luscious emotions and part of the yummy human experience that is super enjoyable.
Why would you want to keep energy flowing through the second chakra? Because stagnant energy can make us sick. And if not sick, then uncomfortable or hurting in some way. Therefore, it's important to keep in mind.
The Yoga Journal says: " When the sacral chakra is out of alignment, you may experience chronic low back pain, ovarian cysts and other reproductive issues, urinary tract infections, impotence, pain during intercourse, complications with the bladder and kidneys, and other pelvic–lower abdominal issues." That's a long list of possible misalignment.
(Read: 5 Homeopathic Remedies For When It Hurts To Pee.)
We can keep that second chakra aligned and moving. Here’s how it’s done:
Are You Emotionally Suppressed?I heard, "Be nice," a lot from my mom growing up. If you're a woman, you're probably a lot like me. Most times it wasn't about what I was doing, but rather about what I was feeling. And mostly, I was feeling angry.
But anger wasn't okay.
Later, I remember crying when I was angry. But I was told to not cry. So it wasn't okay to be angry, and it wasn't okay to be sad, and it wasn't okay to cry. So navigating an emotional life became a minefield. Oh, the stories I could tell!
Maybe you were emotionally suppressed, too.
Emotional suppression can lead to these issues:
1. You are more authentically you.
All of your emotions are who you truly are. If you don't express what you don't like, it's also hard to express what you like.
The more you are you, the easier it gets. At first, this might be a bit rough because people aren't used to you expressing your whole self. You may overdo it.
You may be louder and angrier than you intend to be, but that's just a pendulum swing. It will come back into balance and you continue to allow all of your emotions. Authenticity draws the right connections to you. The right jobs, the right partners, the right lovers all come when you are the fullness of you with all of your emotions.
Related: Nothing's More Beautiful Than A Woman Who's Unapologetically Herself
2. Confidence is yours.
When we are more authentically expressing our emotions, confidence builds.
And with that confidence, you might find yourself standing a little taller and speaking with more authority.
3. Less shame, more resilience.
Of course, we will make some mistakes in our expression of feelings. That's okay. There is no need for shame. We all make mistakes.
Forgiving yourself allows you to move forward into a fuller expression of yourself. It's when we don't forgive ourselves that the cycle continues and we suppress ourselves once again. Let go of that nonsense.
Make mistakes, love yourself. Repeat. It's all good.
Does this mean that anything goes at any time? Naw.
But you already knew that. "Be nice" can also mean "be kind." Kindness never hurts anyone.
So, how can we let that mess out in a way that is productive and feels good? Here are a few tips to get you started:
Have you ever had pain when you pee? Well, you are not alone. 40% of women have had at least one bladder or urinary tract infection in their lifetime. What constitutes an infection or inflammation? Certainly, sometimes they go undetected, but the Mayo clinic lists these symptoms as signs that something just may not be right down there
But if you are looking for a homeopathic remedy . . . Here are 5 that can help.
Is It For You?I have always been a seeker. Even though it took me awhile to find the benefits of energy healing.
When I was in my early 30’s I was in therapy trying to figure out my life. Every week for over a year I’d walk by a homeopath’s office. Her name was Heather Herington, and that office intrigued me. I wondered what it was she actually did. At some point I decided to find out and went in to see her. I went through a long intake process. She wanted to know about me ~ and that felt good. What I remember most were the results.
When I was going through another of my chronic sinus infections, the ones that usually took a couple of rounds of antibiotics to resolve, I decided to try homeopathy instead. Heather took my case and gave me 2 remedies. She said “If this first remedy doesn’t work, then take this second one”.
It worked. And I was both surprised and delighted. It inspired me to take a closer look at homeopathy. I doubt I’d be here practicing if that intervention didn’t take place.
Homeopathy was my first foray into energy healing. Beyond comprehension, with nothing left of any substance in a homeopathic remedy, it still acts. It acts on the body, on the emotions and on the mind. Some say it works spiritually too. It makes no concrete sense, and yet I have reaped the benefits.From there the leap to experiencing, learning and practicing other energy healing modalities isn’t that great. We are playing in the energetic field where all creation begins.
And so it is with light body work, reconnective therapy, reiki, acupuncture and a whole myriad of other modalities. We are eliciting energetic changes that manifest as certain results in the body.
What are some of those benefits or results?
I’m inviting you to find yourself an energy healer. Find one that you resonate with. And if this information resonates with you, and you think you’d like to work with me, I await your invitation.
I started my homeopathic practice almost 20 years ago, and the the skills I learned in school and throughout the years were about listening rather than coaching per se. Perceiving the body and the vital force, finding it’s patterns, listening to what it was saying. Because the body always talks! It talks through gestures, through disgusts and desires, through cravings and what makes it comfortable. The body talks through its symptoms, its aches and pains, its discharges and the side of the body things show up.
I am always fascinated and honored to be witness to what the body will show, and what it won’t.
Language is likewise significant. What words does a person use to reveal themselves. We can’t help but reveal ourselves, and that is a beautiful thing.
Homeopathy is very hands off. Observe, decipher the pattern, offer a remedy. Then watch a Being unfold and reorganize. Amazing!
I am, however, a girl who likes some “hands in the clay” too. I noticed that sometimes a remedy opened a door that was a little too arduous to walk through. There were obstacles in the way. A life circumstance, a belief or attitude.
I also found I love engaging with my clients, offering insights into the patterns that I was seeing. It became fun and rewarding to witness a well indicated conversation have an impact on my client’s lives. And so I’ve done more and more of it over time.
Wise, Wild Women became a “thing”. Coaching women to creatively get clear and attend to their desires, whatever they may be.
I got training in coaching. I chose NLP (Neuro linguistic programming) because I love the idea of strengthening positive neuronal networks to help us move in more desirable directions. And it’s fun!
Lately, I’m moving into more intimate realms. As the creator and developer of Yoni’s Bliss, (Yoni is sanskrit for vulva or womb) I am seeing the need for women to look at, unpack and see what’s truly desired in their vaginal and sexual health and well being. Our wombs are the creative center of the Yoniverse. And it’s an area we tend to ignore. And it’s time to stop that!
So what might Coaching do for you?
5 Amazing Benefits:
So, are you interested in exploring the stuck places in your life, your health, your yoni? I’m totally game to play. Book an exploratory consult to see if we are a good fit!
Our bodies are amazing! Thousands of processes happen every day without our knowledge. Most things run without a hitch. Until they don’t.
Vaginal health is one of those areas that generally “just happens”. Brilliant body that we have, takes care of it all!
Sometimes, though, our yonis (sanskrit for vagina) do get a bit unbalanced. Inflammation in the body from a variety of causes can show up as itching and discharge, or even pain.
So what is the “right” way to care for this very precious area of the body?
It happens. Even the cleanest lube can create a burning sensation when you use it. Maybe you’ve had that experience. Or sometimes it burns and sometimes it doesn’t. And you are scratching your head wondering why, and what to do about it.
Let’s start with some of the reasons your lube might burn.
Your Guide To Yoni MassageI am a 50 something woman. Professional homeopath, single woman, advocate for healthy Yonis everywhere. I support you being in, and loving your sensual body. I do because wisdom resides in her. Our bodies have so much to teach us if we’d only listen
Several years ago I was inspired to create a homeopathic lubricating gel. I call this gel Yoni Bliss. Yoni Bliss has taken me on a ride these last number of years that I will never forget. It’s not always been an easy one. In some ways I’ve been called to grow up and step into my juicy womanhood. And I can say happily that process is not complete. (But I suppose if it were complete, I might as well croak.)
Yoni is sanskrit for “vulva”, “source of life” or “sacred space”. These definitions appeal to me. More and more I sink down into that second chakra, sacral energy. I feel grounded there. I can sense my inner knowing there. It feels to me, that is my ultimate feminine connection.
It is in the spirit of curiosity and reclamation that I offer you an opportunity and step by step instructions on how to give yourself a Yoni massage.
I know what you might be thinking. There is no way in heck I will ever do something like that! Or, who in the world has time to do something so decadent? Or, that scares the “sh*t” out of me.
Or maybe you are feeling a little of all of that plus other inexplicable emotions.
I heard about Yoni Massages many years ago in the book “Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit and Joy in the Root of the Female Body” by Tami Kent. I was entranced. Since then there are many who talk about Yoni massages, but so many of them require a partner. And for a beginner who wants to dip a toe, sometimes doing it solo produces more satisfying results, or at least a little more ease.
But maybe you are wondering why you’d even want to go down this road.
These are some benefits:
If so, let me show you the way.
(And What You Can Do To Fix It)Ever notice that once you are in a relationship for awhile the juiciness wanes a bit? Maybe you’re not as wet as you were when you first met. Maybe you just aren’t having the sex you once did when everything was new. The butterflies in your stomach aren’t quite as active, anticipation has faded, maybe the excitement that once was is no longer.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s likely that all of those feelings, sensations and emotions have been replaced with comfort, stability and ease. Trust builds over time. Which definitely has its own yumminess.
But here you are 1 or 10 years later wondering why your vagina is dry? Are you just not turned on by him anymore? Is it his fault? Is it yours?
Whoa. Slow down girl. Let’s talk about some of the real possibilities.
Here are 7 Reasons Your Vagina Is Dry After One Year Of Being In A Relationship
So there you have it. If your relationship feels good. If it’s making you happy in oh so many ways, there may be nothing to fret about if your vagina is dry now and then. But if you are concerned, these suggestions may help you on your way to solving the problem.
Musings and missives.